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The WHOLE News - September 2017

7 Year Old 'Gets' The Mastery Club and Makes Big Decisions

My name is Meg I am 7 years old I read the Mastery Club with my Mum we have nearly finished it and I'm looking forward to reading the next book.  What I like about the Mastery Club is that it is encouraging, powerful, words I thought of about it are happy, excited, excellent, spectacular, kindness, loving.  I know I have the power in me to do anything that I want I keep thinking "see the invisible, hear the silent, do the impossible". I am currently in the middle of changing schools I asked Mum to look at new schools because I felt like I was ready to move from where I was and meet some new friends and learn more things. I feel like the book has helped me be able to do this.  Love Meg x

- I'm so glad! Meg's mother Amy shared how impressed she was with Meg's clarity and responsibility about moving schools. Love it.

Where's the Order in Terrorism?

If you missed my last mailout regarding terrorism, you can read the blog here.

One reader, Elizabeth Christie, is the publisher of 'SchoolDays Magazine', a newsletter full of resources for teachers. Elizabeth emailed to thank me for my article and ask for another that she could publish since teachers are increasingly finding that children are worried and fearful about the terrorist acts occurring around the world. You can read that article here.

Two Mums – from my Inbox

Mum #1:

I came across the usb audio of the mastery club at a shop in Croydon North called 'Threads of Nature'. I bought them for my older daughters (12 y/o and 13 y/o) who listened to almost the whole story in one days sitting. It was very clever of you to weave all those important life tools into a childrens story and in a sequential way. Bravo to you! I say :) I commend you on your commitment and passion to helping equip children with these skills. thanks again for following up. Blessings, Karen Kirke

Mum #2:

congratulations fabulous books and great to have so many variations e-books audio etc. I am reading with my daughter as well and buying them for every friend of hers I know who has a birthday... Awesome. Love Vicki O'Leary

- Thank you, Karen and Vicki! So glad your children are enjoying my books... And thank you for gifting them to others. :-)

Strip Tease for Women's Networking Event...

I took my emotional gear off at Jo Schutt's Bloom Women in Business Networking Event on 19th July, and received the following beautiful comment from Jo:

'Liliane was the final speaker for our Business Focus Day, which was the perfect way to end a fabulous event. Her presentation is honest, raw, entertaining and inspiring and had everyone person in the room captivated. My kids and I are now loving the book & can’t wait to read another chapter at the end of the day. Thank you for your work Liliane.'  - Jo Schutt, Bloom Networking

Bloom talkIt was such a pleasure, Jo! You've gathered a very beautiful group of women around you. Highly recommended if you are a woman in business seeking a community of like-minded souls. Contact Jo on This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or visit the website for more information.

Within one week of the presentation, I'd already received a couple of appreciative emails about The Mastery Club:

- 'And thought I'll let you know that my younger one [11 yrs old] just finished the first book :)! Loved it'

- 'I am loving the book.'

Amy Perkin of Nature's Nosh was the 'delicious caterer'! Her meals and snacks were all mouth-watering... Amy and I had previously met at a Suburban Sandcastles event, and Amy emailed to say, 'It was awesome to be there with you and hear you speak about where you came from and I just love you even more!  Haha I really feel like I have know you forever and I don't get those feelings very often but you are AWESOME!! and I tell everyone just that!' It's mutual!

Amy also shared her daughter's emotional growth since reading The Mastery Club (see above).

Let's Bully On Purpose In Schools!

I realise that's a very confrontational heading but I mean it 100%!

I've just had an article published in Living Now on this topic. Publication agreements and Google worms mean that I can't also publish it here, so I'm providing the first bit and a link to the rest HERE but would love your comments below.

'There’s a great deal of fear and judgement in relation to bullying, but as with most challenging issues what’s being missed are the blessings and opportunities. No-one wants to get to the point of significant abuse (either as giver or receiver) or to the ultimate crisis of fatal aggression or suicide, so let’s call this what it is and get on with it.

'According to the Law of Conservation, we’ll never eradicate bullying or aggression – it’s part of our nature and how we evolve, and to think otherwise is delusion. Far more important that we recognise the dynamics at work and find useful ways of empowering ourselves and others in managing these traits. 

'We each play each role. The bully at school is quite possibly bullied at home. The ‘bullied’ at school possibly becomes the bully at home. If you look honestly at your own life, you’ll find you’ve played both roles, and that both roles serve you.

'We learn important lessons, whichever side of the equation we are on. Rather than banging our heads against the dynamic and making it wrong, let’s work with it.'

If you'd like to read the rest, click here.

If you'd like a quick overview of the rest of the article now, here are my main points in brief:

Opposites are magnetised together by universal law: 'Bully' = big on self/confidence = positive charge; 'Bullied' = small self/unconfident = negative charge. 

The purpose of this mutual attraction is to balance the charges out: that the bully might experience a prick of conscience or regret, and the bullied might experience a flash of anger/self-worth ('I don't deserve to be treated like this!') 

The outcome is that those who are careless (value others less) and careful (value others more) become caring (value self and others in equal balance).

• It can take a long time for us to learn this lesson! Hence my proposal to 'Bully On Purpose In Schools'. Why? To drill the skill of appropriate communication and the mindsets of worth and respect just as we drill multiplication tables! Why else? Because if we don't, we carry the tendency to abuse or attract abuse into our adult lives.

How would this work? Imagine a room with students in threes: Each group is given a script of a typical childhood bullying scenario. Each student is given a role: Bully, Bullied, and Observer. They read out the script then are given another script and they change roles. By the end of the session, each child has played each role, so that the child who is typically a bully gets to stand in the shoes of the nervous bullied, and the child who is usually bullied gets to stand in the shoes of the brash bully, and both get to observe the dynamic, and the one who usually observes gets to engage. Teachers are monitoring these little role plays and after they are played out, there is a 'debrief' discussion about it and what it brings up for the students.

Eventually, when they are confident of the basic principles, they are given scenarios without a script so that they can practise responding spontaneously, on their feet, in real time. (Ideally this activity is coupled with active listening and appropriate assertiveness skills training.) The observer position is crucial, because it is the third point of view that delivers wisdom. (I didn't address this suffiicently in the article.)

These scenarios would be drilled so regularly and consistently that students come to recognise the patterns of abusive behaviour, respect and value self and other, learn the patterns of good communication, and develop resilience and creative problem-solving skills.

These skills and mindsets are essential for a healthy life in which we are effectively pursuing our goals and dreams. So many of us run aground either at school, in adult relationshps or in business because we didn't master these communication skills. (I'm a point in case – stand by for a new book I'm writing about this...)

I'd love your feedback to this idea, and I'd love the opportunity to deliver a talk about it in greater detail to your group, or to facilitate a session. Comment below or This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

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• The 1st 4 chapters of my personal development novel, The Mastery Club – empower young people via an entertaining story.

• A 10-page report on ‘Busting the Talent Myth and Overcoming Writer’s Block’ – write your own stuff.

• An article and strategy for ‘Transforming Bullying by Drilling Communication Skills in Schools’ – transform bullying at school / home / work.

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The Mastery Club Tip of the Month

"If you tell somebody stories about high achievement just before they perform some test or exercise, they will perform better than if you had not told them those stories. If you merely use the words, 'succeed', 'master', and 'achieve' in a sentence, they will do better."

- David Brooks, The Social Animal – A Story of How Success Happens

Find previous months' tips here